• All day women taught kids ways of world, made sure people are fed and healthy
•  1 in 4 families owned slaves because they were expensive to maintain
• Women and kids had mandatory tasks assigned to them by patriarchs
•  Women inferior to men in practically every way: men expected unconditional submission in everything, though Southern men loved their women unconditionally
• Ettique is major, especially regarding women:

                 "...call the offender out (to duel with pistols), and if he refused to come out, shoot him on sight...A Presbyterian minister, [he continued] had an only sister, a widow, to whom a friend made 'improper proposals'. She informed her brother, who was 500 miles distant at the time. The clergyman rode the distance on horseback, found the offender and killed him. He was never prosecuted."

"In the typical upper-class Southern household the father and husband is the patriarch whose authority embraces his wife and children no less than his servants. The mother's role is a subordinate one. She is expected to be loving and properly submissive to her husband, to raise children and look after their early education, to occupy the domestic sphere. Southern women are exalted in part to offset the disadvantages if their secondary status"